Meeting with Yourself
For many of us lost in busyness, we may feel that we do not have the time and freedom to do what we really want to do. To overcome such a problem, we need to make time to conduct meeting with ourselves to sort out what are the things that we really should be doing.
Our brain is miraculous, if you ask a question, it will start processing for the answer and one day the answer will appear to you out of the blue. Therefore do not harbour a negative thought but rather ask a question. If you don't have time, don't just think "I don't have time!". Ask a question to your subconscious mind instead, ask, "How can i have time to do the things I really waant to do?"
You should actively generate positive ideas about the future, among these ideas, select what you think is possible and create a task list to work at it. If something is found to be unworkable, get it off the list. In this manner, actively select, refine and create your ideal future.
Ask yourself this question:"How can I create a brighter future?" Your very first answers maybe habitual, experiential or instinctual; the maybe shallow and reactive. Still, write down you answers. Through the answers you wrote, you may develop a new feeling about the situation and have better answers, continue on this way and you may discover completely new possibilities. Treat this as a process of releasing the knots in your heart and mind.
1. Start by acknowledging the situation you are facing now. Describe in writing the situation that you are facing.
2. Next, ask yourself how would you like things to become.
3. Then, ask yourself what you need to do such that the situation would become as you like it to be (like what you described in step 2).
4. Write what you need to do into a to do list that you can always carry with you.
Find a time and place to have the meeting with yourself. You will know what time and place works well for you by experimenting different timing and places. The right time and place should be conducive to solitary thinking and a good mood.
For me, the temperature and the noise level as well as the chair and desk I am using matters. Whenever I go to a particular bookshop in town, ideas and inspirations start to flow, find your own spot. If you know what triggers good mood and thinking, replicate those conditions in a room in your house and use it for the meeting.
Before you begin anything or the meeting with yourself, think about 3 happy things. This will help to change your mood and allow you to see things and come up with ideas that you may never have if you don't perform this exercise.
Next, report to yourself your current situation, your mood and whatever comes to your mind.
If you want to live a life you want rather than a life that you have to live, don't focus on what you have to do; rather, focus on what you want to do.
The subconscious is powerful but it cannot search the mind for something that is'nt in it. If you ask your subconscious a question and it never returns you with an answer, it is likely that you are searching for something that does not exist in your mental database.
Don't try to find good answer but rather find the good questions that will lead to the good answers. Good answers will come when good questions are formulated.
When you dont have the right question in mind, even if people tell you the way, you will not receive it.
Also dont just ask questions that will cause negative answers to roll in such as asking "Why cant I?", "Why am I not good?"
Instead ask questions that will bring in positive solutions. Such as how can i achieve this? How can I find the way to achieve this?
From asking "Why cant I?" Change to "how can I do it?", "how can i do it easily?" and "how can i do it easily and happily?"
The following examples illustrate how different questions can be asked to find a solution to your problem. By changing the question you may find a solution that otherwise wont be found.
"The plan is boring."
change to "How can I make it more interesting?" or
"Can I discuss with others to get more interesting ideas?"
"Cannot meet deadline."
"How can I meet deadline?" or "How can I extend the deadline?"
"Want to go travelling but have a young child at home."
change to "How to go travelling then?" or "Can I bring my child along?"
"Want to ask this person for help but no courage."
change to "Can I ask other people for help?" or "How can I feel happy asking the person for help?"
"There are many work that I dont like to do."
change to "How do I reduce the work that i dont like to do?" "How do I increase the work that i like to do?"
"How can I enjoy doing the current work?"
When you can't sell your products, don't just think, "I cant sell the products...I can sell the products...I can't sell the products." but ask "Why cant I sell my product?" then actively identify all the factors: Is the price too high? Is advertisement not enough? Are the products not needed? For each of the factors, after confirming, think of solutions.
There are two kinds of meeting with self.
1) Just thinking about things randomly or 2) thinking specifically about a subject.
First. Set a end time for the meeting Then order a subject for the meeting. Then do these four steps: 1. Write down the issues you are facing now. 2. Separately for each issue write down how you will like things to change and become. 3. Separately for each issue write down what you can do so that things will become the way you want them to be. 4.Convert your ideas from part 3 into tasks and write them down in a to do list.
Next schedule your tasks into your weekly planner and motivate yourself to start acting on the tasks.
After completing the tasks, check if the goals have been reached. If not, ask why and restart the meeting with yourself regarding the subject to create a better solution. If ok, then you are done!
Remember whenever you cannot discover the solution or cannot do something by yourself, ask for help from others who can and keep exploring books, places or any sources of information and resource.
Draw a map to layout your plan and tasks; not just those tasks that you know how to do but also include the tasks of finding out how to do some tasks.
The map helps you order your tasks, those that can be performed simultaneously and those that must be performed sequentially. If you give a deadline to each task, you will have a better idea of which day the entire project is likely to be completed and whether you are ahead of or behind time.
First list all the projects you have on paper and then select one for brainstorming and to map out the sequences and series of tasks.
Doing this map will not just help you in planning but also help you in giving clear directions and explanations to others when people ask. When people are confident in the feasibility of each action steps in your plan, they are more likely to give you good appraisal, good referrer, investments or any other form of support you require.
You could present your plan in the form of a Minto pyramid or circuit structure. No matter what form you choose to present your plan, the key criteria is that it should help you and others understand clearly and as quickly as possible the way to proceed from your current stage to your end goal. Some steps may include finding out how to do something.
In the case of the minto pyramid, doing the things at the bottom level of the pyramid should allow you to achieve the tasks at the higher levels in the pyramid.
Some people may experience a state of constant worry, there are just too many things to worry about and they don't know what exactly they have to worry most. Dont merely worry about many things, write them down and sort them out one after another. One at a time.. complete one and say next. Get into the momentum.
Write down all the things that are important to yourself on a tool that you will keep by your side so you can look at them anytime, it could be a small notebook and pen that you can always carry by your side or it could be your smart phone, the key criteria is that you could start writing within 3 seconds whenever you want to write.
We may have mulitple roles, multiple duties, multiple projects. In order not to lose track and start to worry or busy blindly, get the overall picture first by writing them all down and fitting the tasks you are doing to the categories.
Sometimes people feel very confused and frustrated thinking they have many problems. But when you ask them what is their problem, they cant really pinpoint it. The real problem is they have so many problems that they have a problem remember exactly what they are. The problem is really their state of mind, a state of mind that remembers vaguely that they have many problems, many of which might be small problems like late for work this morning, or accidentally broke a cup.
The feeling that, "I have many problems at hand." makes them fear accepting new tasks or taking on new, helpful and meaningful activities that will help them achieve their dream life. But when they really have time, they cant or don't want to think of what to do, instead they switch on the TV or revert to any habitual tasks to "escape" from their worries. Some of these habitual tasks may appear to be helpful, such as ironing the clothes, reading a book or going for a jog, but on closer inspection, none of these helps the person break out from the cycle that runs their life. The really important job, depending on the situation, might be to hunt for another job or to build a sideline, but these tasks are scary as they do not guarantee a reward or may change your life significantly. Instinctually we back off from risking our small bits of leisure time, from making effort to do something unfamiliar and taxing more of our mental energy.
Don't be mistaken, im not asking you to change and force yourself to put in extra effort when you are really exhausted. I'm asking you to try breaking out of this cycle by thinking of something that is easy for you to achieve a breakthrough; something you will be motivated to do when you are exhausted. Or you may prevent yourself from getting exhausted such as taking a leave or quitting your current job so that you have time to plan. Anyway, if blindly busying will never get you to your dream life, it is time to take a step back and plan for finding a job or creating a business that will.
To clear the mind, just take a blank piece of paper and start writing down whatever comes to your mind before sorting out what is important and then focus on solving them.
Sort out what is important or not important, what can be done now or what needs to be done later, what can be done in 5 mins and needs an hour, what you need help with etc...after sorting your problems according to how you deal with them, your mind will feel lighter and able to proceed confidently throughout the day.
The solution to sticky and challenging problems may become obvious after you write them down.
When you are stuck solving a problem by yourself, ask: 1. Who can i ask for help? 2. What should i ask people to help me with?
Sometimes we are overwhelmed with problems, various types of problems bothering us made us lose our peace and creativity. At this point ask yourself,"What should I do to make things right?"
You can also write down all your feelings and thoughts as a form of one man brainstorming. During brainstorming, we don't need the ideas to be right, what we want is to fish for ideas that are out of the box and a better clarity of the issue at hand from various angles.
The principles of brainstorming are: 1. Dont analyze the ideas that arise 2. Dont conclude 3. Dont deny/reject any idea 4. Let ideas flow without limiting them with logic and structures.
If you base on your existing conditions to derive your ideas or make incremental improvements from your existing state, the room for great ideas that will radically disrupt and make radical progress to emerge will be limited.
In a meeting with yourself, you can write down things that even you are embarrassed to tell others, that is the benefit of one man meeting in finding a deeply satisfying or innovative solution.
First discard your self imposed limits and mindsets, based on your vision to draw out a blueprint for the future. Next contrast this blueprint with your existing conditions to derive feasible ideas.
Work immediately on identifying and working on the opportunities around you or those that you have observed or heard about.
Although those may not be 100% good opportunities, but if it is the best opportunity around you, you must try for a breakthrough. Therefore ask yourself:"what are the opportunities around me right now?"
Write them all down and among them pick the best and most feasible; although an opportunity may not be perfect, work on it immediately until it is proven that you can or you cant succeed by it. If you come across something difficult along the way. Dont give up, conduct a meeting with yourself or with others to solve the problem.
Sometimes we are stuck in a frame of mind or way of thinking about things; we need to take ourselves mentally away from the problem so that the brain can relax itself into another frame of mind from which we can easily see the solution. If you have played magic eye or tried translation work, you will know what i mean. If you are a beginner doing translation work, you can try this. Try translating language A to language B while reading language A, your translation will be abit awkward taking on the grammar of language A. Get away from the original text and come back later to the translated piece, now it will be easy for you to spot your grammar mistakes and rephrase them correctly. Of course if you are an expert, you will be able to do this seamlessly without having to take your mind away.
The key takeaway from this example is that if you are are stuck on a problem after thinking for very long, it is best to write down all your thoughts about it now, take a break from thinking about it and then come back later, not on the problem itself but on the thoughts you have written about it. It may become clear to you where you need to change to get the right solution.
Now comes the critical steps: 1. Convert all your ideas to actionable tasks and write them into to do list. 2. With the to do list, schedule them into your calendar. After scheduling into calendar, just focus on one task at a time, forgetting rest of the tasks on the calendar while doing the task on hand. 3. And then split yourself into two personalities, your agent and yourself. 4. Discuss with your "agent" on your schedule to motivate yourself to adhere to the schedule at the same time the reasonableness of it. For example, Agent:"we need to have two meetings in the afternoon" Me:"schedule is too pack can we space it out a little?" Agent:"but if we pack it abit we will feel more accomplish today and the night is freed up for dinner with friends." Me,"ok, since that's the case I just work harder in the afternoon."
Some additional pointers:
Writing down your task frees up your mind, allowing for inspiration to happen.
When you want to request to meet someone, dont just ask if the person is free at such and such a time. Mention the agenda first, because depending on the agenda, the other person may decide whether he/she has time for it.
Make space between meeting so that if one meeting is extended it wont affect the next meeting.
Sometimes it is good to end a meeting when you still feel like going on , because this will make the meeting end on a high pitch and make people look forward to the next meeting but don't sacrifice productivity for it.
Suggest to use a notebook planner, this well help give you a better sense of time. If you track your activities on the book and review them, you will get a better picture of how you spend your time and how you want to better spend your time.
If you can imagine the desired effect of your actions, this will help you adjust your actions to achieved the desired effect. This is analogous to the scenario where a tennis coach will ask the trainee to visualize the desired trajectory of the ball first before hitting the ball to achieve the desired trajectory.
To increase the chances of success, think what is the desired subsequent series of events and activities after your action then adjust your action to achieve them. Visualise and write down the desired trajectory of events and then claim them step by step.
Categorize those things which can be done in 5 mins, 30mins, an hour or 2 hours separately. You will do them according to the amount of time you have.
Dont think,"do when i have time." Think," do it now, do it immediately".
To live a happy life, you cant wait passively for happy things to happen, you must find time to actively make things happen. Every morning, ask yourself what you can do to make today a happy day!
Dont do things that are urgent, do things that are important and not urgent. Let the urgent things fail or get other people who like those jobs to do them.
If you have old tasks and new tasks, do the new tasks first. When you have extra time then do the old tasks, if not just let the old tasks remain undone. If you keep chasing the old tasks, even the new tasks will become late.
If you need ideas, note down in writing every interesting thing about the things you read and observe. By browsing information, you will be inspired with ideas on the things you are thinking about and ideas to solve the problems you are having.
Have a notebook to extract all the interesting information that you obtain from your environment. Remember your subconscious is a powerful filter too. It is always choosing what your conscious sees and notice. Therefore there might be a reason why you find something especially interesting. Note it down and the information may come in useful in a few days.
Many ideas occur when a person is walking. Write down the "ideas","to do" and "things to think about later" that occur to you while you are walking. Always bring a notebook and pen or smartphone with you, ready to record these inspirations.
This is because when you walk, the brain will become more active. Be ready to catch any inspiration.
How to quickly act on your task list? Often we can't pick up the energy and enthusiasm to act on the to do list. If you force yourself, you may feel bad in your heart when you do, but the heart is our friend, we should treat it gently. Instead, ask yourself,"how about doing a little bit?" This is the way to get you start working.
"Im not quite enthusiastic today, therefore i will just do a bit, even if there is no significant result." Think like that at first. However, when you warm up suddenly you might be in the zone for action."
The key is "not to make forceful effort" When the mind and body is relaxed, that is when we can bring out our best performance.
If you dont feel like you are making effort and dont feel tired, you may think that you are being lazy but you must be used to making effort in a relaxed manner, as if enjoying every detail of your work.
1. Ask yourself to try doing a bit 2. Ask yourself how to make doing the work more enjoyable. 3. Like making an art piece, carefully and patiently complete any simple task taking care of every detail. 4. Ask yourself, if I start doing this, what may I gain? 5. If the feeling that you absolutely must do something arises, that is too forceful a state of mind and might make your approach bitter and hard. You must change your state of mind by asking yourself:"why not try a bit today?" Even if no result is ok. Think like that and warm yourself up gradually into the zone of effortless effort, where the state of mind is flexible and the heart is warm.
If you are too busy and tasks keep coming in, where do you begin? Begin from the most recent tasks. The most recent tasks embodies your current enthusiasm, there is recency and addressing them immediately gives you a feeling of efficiency. If an earlier task was important, it should come and bug you again. If it can be forgotten then it you can think it is not important for the meantime, have them in your to do list but do them after you complete your more recent work. You need to have peace of mind doing your more recent work, not worrying about your more dated work.
If you have finished the recent tasks and still have time and energy then you can clear some of the older tasks. If you start with the older tasks, by the time you finished them, even the new tasks will grow dated and you will be forever behind time and rushing deadlines.
To save time every communication must be kept simple and to the point.
A child impose very little self limitations and possess very little idea of what can or cannot, should or should not be done. This is a child's weakness but also his strength. Because he dont know, he tries and therefore he is creative and learns fast, he is flexible, there is no precedent logic to follow, from nothing something arises.
If you want to recover the courage of a child, simply ask yourself to try doing. Yes. Try doing again.
Because as an adult we have accumulated alot of bias and preconceptions, even though we may seriously think through alternatives and their pros and cons before making a decision, our decision is still based on our habitual thinking and selection process. Even if we are doing something challenging, it is still an extension from our past self.
The key is to change our habitual self so that we can see things differently and discover opportunities around us. You will see, hear, feel things that you thought were'nt there before.
To change your habits: 1. Have goals that you dont even know how to realise. Goals that make your heart leap! 2. Go into the community of people you admire. Make a list of 10 people you admire. 3. Live as if you have already achieve the success you want.
Report progress monthly. Write down what you really want and how much you are progressing in that direction.
When you ask question, the important thing is not the answer itself but the feeling that accompanies (follows from) the answer.
Answering the question will peel away the outermost layer of feeling to reveal a new feeling. Keep doing that until a sense of conviction and optimism arises.
By writing down, thoughts that have never been recognized before will emerge, it feels as if you didnt think of the idea but is the idea that found you. Reconfirm again, where are you really heading.
Ask these questions:
What is the goal? What is progressing well? What is progressing badly? Therefore what should i do? Through these questioning, what do you gain?
What can you do to change the current situation immediately? The keyword is immediately.
After generating the to do list. Some task are of high priority but some low. However we tend to focus and feel happy doing the low priority tasks and procrastinate on those with high priority.
Although there are many reasons for exhibiting this behaviour, one key reason is that high priority tasks are those that will change our life for the better. But whether change is good or bad, our instincts always tell us to preserve our existing situation, because that is the situation that helped us survive.
Our self preservation instinct is uncomfortable with drastic changes, whether the change is good or bad because it will bring us face to face with unfamiliar situations which we do not have known methods of dealing with. But Instinct is connected with our greatest powers i.e. the powers of senses, the powers of quick thinking, the power to activate our adrenalin, etc...therefore it is no surprise entrepreneurs typically succeed after they go hungry or survive on bread for months and days. But we dont have to intentionally go to that extent to activate our powers.
We may use gentle persuasion. Persuading ourselves that the task is worth doing with many reasons related to our survival and reproduction. The key is not trying to lie to yourself, because you will know that. You must honestly bring to awareness and use research to convince yourself that something is definitely true.
For example, I can predict that the private face to face classroom tuition industry will bust in 5 years but that is a prediction i believe only 50%. Based on this level of believe, it is hard for me to feel convinced I need to take action to save my job. Therefore to motivate myself, this believe is insufficient.
I need more research to convince or reject my believe entirely. It is ok to disbelieve or believe entirely with evidence, so that you can reject or accept something entirely and whatever action you take will be accord with something backed by evidence and reason.
The problem is when your believe is somewhere in the middle like 50%, then your will to take action or desist from them is weak. A half hearted attempt always make you a loser in any field of endeavour to anyone with greater conviction. So always use research to push your believe to 100% or to 0%, never leave it as 50%, either that or just decide not to care about the subject at all, then whether it is 0%, 50% or 100% it wont matter because you dont care. Find and act on something else you care and make sure what you care about is 100%. Then you will always be able to act resolutely.
But believing in something 100% is not enough for you to take action, you must care about something 100% too. You care about something 100% when it concerns your survival or the survival of things or people you truly love!
So some people care for their cars as if it is their life, but they must also believe the car repair man 100% if they want to hand it over to the repair man. So 100% care about the subject and believe in the method result in 100% resolute action. But believing in something wrong 100% will lead to 100% disaster, so make sure your believe is not unfounded by backing up with 100% scientific evidence.
Therefore the formula for success is 100% care over the subject by reasoning that the subject concerns your survival; 100% believe in a method that is 100% backed by scientific evidence. Then take 100% resolute action. 100% resolute action is the natural result of the earlier three 100 percents added together.
Therefore the way to convince yourself to act on your task is: 1. Choose to work to achieve a goal that you care about 100% 2. Research on the method you want to try until you are 100% sure it will bring you the result you want. In the course of your research, you may discover some other method that you are even more confident of, in that case switch method. 3. Convince yourself that what you are trying to achieve is linked to the survival of yourself, something or some people you truly care about.
Collect together via copying, cuting and pasting all the written words or pictures of the above three points that positively triggers you on a soft or hardcopy document. One good software to use is Google Keep and the snipping tool. Try out and you will know what I mean.
Read and update what you collected regularly.
Another method suggested for motivating yourself is this:
1. Give a score to each of your to do from a scale of 0 to 100. With 100 being something you are most motivated to do. 2. Go to the high priority task and think about the reasons to improve the score to 100. For eg. A salesman motivation to make cold call based on the fun of the activity itself is just 0. But he tells himself that if he can just get 1 customer it will improve his monthly commission by $100, this improve the score to 5 but it drops to 0 again because he thinks $100 is not enough and also he is not confident he will get one customer. Next he go to his boss to ask for increase his commission to $500, assume the boss agrees, the salesman then try to improve his sales pitch until he is confident that for every 100 customer he call one will buy from him. Now his motivation to do the call is increased to 60. Further he set himself up to compete with the sales person sitting beside him who said he is a loser. Increase to 70. And then he thinks that he will use the 500 to do something for his loved ones, the score improve to 100. He writes down all his reasons and paste on his wall.
Alternatively, you can also force yourself to do the 'right' thing without going through these steps to persuade yourself BUT the problem is you may not even be convinced that you are doing the right thing, it may turn out to be really a wrong thing to do when the reasons for doing it are not clear and you may not know what after earning that 500 dollars and spend on something pointless.
Another problem is that if you learn to force yourself, you develop a forcing character that makes you want to force others to do the right things too. If you have not learn the skill of persuasion, it is hard to be a leader. Even if you make yourself appear successful, you may end up with a bitter and serious team of people that dont know what is the point of success.
We are all interdependent on each other to be persuaded to do the right things. To be good at persuasion, you need to be sensitive of people's interests and values so that you can persuade them according to their interests and values. You need to allow yourself to be persuaded when other people make sense. You must not be egocentric, if you are always thinking of your self interest and stubbornly holding on to your own reasonings to maintain an appearance that you are more intelligent than others, people will recognize that and also do the same, making it difficult for you to persuade them to anything.
Things are going to get easier to do as you repeatedly do with a caring and learning state of mind. I have seen many old man and lady that can do the job they do for 40 years with greater ease and skill than a young beginner on the job. For eg. My aikido Sensei can do rolls and throws better than most, if not all, of his students. And i know an old lady who can tear up to 40 sheets of plastic materials at one go compared to a young man who can barely tear up one piece at a time and not as nicely because that was the old lady's job for the past ten years.
As you go about convincing yourself to work on the to do list. Slowly, you wouldnt even need convincing to convince yourself, convincing yourself and others will become so natural to you that people dont even realised they have been through any convincing. Because your resolute actions and the success you have achieved will do the convincing for you.
To start practicing persuasion, start with one thing that you always want to do but always dont feel like doing. List down the reasons that you want to do it. List down the reasons that you dont feel like doing it. For the reasons you dont feel like doing it, try to change the meaning you attribute to the tasks. For eg.
I dont feel like running when i get home from work.
Change to can i run before i go to work?
I dont feel like doing so either. Why? Because i need to save energy for work...O wait...running is supposed to provide me with more energy for work in the long term... so let's get into habit and do it and it will make me fitter and healthier. I have friends who run before they go to work in the morning and they look fresh so why cant i?
There you persuade yourself. Persuaders are leaders. People who wait to be persuaded are followers. People who cant be persuaded to do the right thing have not found what they truly want to do in life. Therefore it is important to ask the questions:"What do I really want?"
The key of persuasion is to change the meaning people and yourself attribute to tasks. Because when the meaning you attribute to a task changes, your feeling about the task will change; when the feeling about the task changes to positive, you will have impetus to act. If you think a task is draining your energy, you will be unlikely to carry it out. But if you think a task is rewarding, you will follow through. You must find the bright side of a task through thorough reasoning, not trying to deceive yourself or others, in order to reach at the true motivation to carry out a task.
The necessary things that you need to say or do BUT have not cared enough to say or do AND fear to say or do are the things that are stopping you from achieving the life you want and make you remain in a "not so comfortable zone". If you are perfectly comfortable, you wouldnt even think about living a different life at all.
What are the things you really want to do but dont feel like doing? Doing that thing, what will you gain? What meaning would you give the task to make you feel 100% enthusiastic about carrying it out? What meaning would you give the task to make you feel 120% enthusiastic about carry it out?
If you fear risking, there will not be gain. Through risking, you will train your judgement. How do you train your judgement without risking everything? Save the portion of anything that you need for survival, take risk with the rest.
Dont think with only your brain, because feelings of caution often happen in the body. Fear is a feeling in the body, happiness is a feeling in the body, although it is the conscious and subconscious plus the senses that trigger the feelings in the body, the feelings in the body sums up everything. The heart is not the heart organ, but the area in the body close to the heart that feelings of joy and faith are located. Pay attention to the areas in the body where feelings arise to caution you to take action or withdraw from action.
Though feelings are not always accurate predictions of what will happen and the areas may differ for different people, you will learn to improve your judgement and train your feelings by paying attention to the different feelings that arise in your own body. Write down your how you feel and your prediction about things and check back later when things actually happen. If predictions are inaccurate, you can tell yourself not to fear so much next time, there is nothing to fear. Or if you realise you were too optimistic, tell yourself to be more careful next time, you are too optimistic. Keep refining your judgement that way. And you will learn how to master your feelings.
If you hesitate, then act without hesitation. Learn from action, failure and refinement after setting aside what you cannot lose and risk with what you can.
Have the courage to change what you can, the heart to accept what you cant and the wisdom to know the difference of the two.
How to live is the central question surrounding our lives.
As long as you dont take things for granted to be a certain way but ask, " could it be so, could it be otherwise, could it be done differently?" That will lift you from outdated preconception about things and create the neccessary curiousity for you to see new opportunities and discover new knowledge.
Wherever you are, inspirations and opportunities abound, you don't have to go too far.
In setting a goal, you pursue a means, unwittingly, the means itself becomes a goal. But what is your true goal? How do you really want to live your life? Dont forget this question.